Sunday, January 1, 2017

Resolutions for 2017

1. To read at least one book a month.

2. To practice on Duolingo for at least 150 days.

3.  To hike at least once a month.

4.  To remember many people by name.

5. To get 10,000 steps in every day for a month.

6. Take an acting class.

7. Go on a family vacation (with mom and sis), even if it's only for a weekend.

8.  To better my health.

9.  To drink three liters of water every day for a month.

10. To sing in a musical or in front of a crowd at open mic night.

11.  Meet new people.

12 . To take more chances.

13.  To Curse less

14. Spend less time on my personal social media pages. (Work requires me to use social media)

15. To do more to achieve my dream.

Sunday, December 4, 2016

Are Chip and Joanna Gaines Anti-Gay?

Quite frankly, I do not know. I don't think they've come out and said anything about these allegations, but from my personal experience, going to any church does not necessarily mean that you agree with everything that is preached. I'd like to think the same for Chip and Joanna. I was raised at a Catholic church. That does not make me a Catholic, a Christian, or an anti-gay person.  I currently do not belong to any religion. I disagree with a lot of things that are preached at church. That doesn't mean I assume that everyone who goes to church is close-minded, homophobic, anti-gay, etc . It is 2016. Let's try to be a little more accepting of people. Let's agree to disagree. Speak up if you don't like something, but be sure to do some research before you jump to conclusions. For the record, I will say that I do not believe that being gay is a choice and I am against gay conversion therapy. I have stood up against bills that are against gay rights. I am not trying to defend Chip and Joanna or their parish.  I know nothing about them and I don't watch their show. I am simply stating my opinion. Don't judge a book by it's cover. I also have nothing against the Catholic church or church in general, it is simply not for me.

Sunday, October 9, 2016

Tips to fight Acne

For about six years, I struggled with acne. I tried everything. The dermatologist prescribed me antibiotics, topical acne creams, and even prescription face washes. I even tried Proactiv. Nothing worked for me. I was in college when my sister told me about a girl in her class who took some medicine called Accutane and that her skin was flawless. I went to my dermatologist to talk about the option of taking this miracle drug. The doctor told me it was not going to be an easy process. It would be a six month thing. I had to get my blood drawn once a month to make sure my body wasn't reacting in a bad way and to make sure I wasn't pregnant. They make you agree in writing to use two forms of birth control. There are many negative side effects to this drug, but if you ask me, it was so worth it. I now feel comfortable enough to leave the house without foundation and I rarely ever have severe breakouts anymore. Not everybody has a good experience or reaction to this drug. Some minor side effects are bad dry skin, chapped lips,  There are severe side effects like depression, liver damage, birth defects, miscarriages, but I still think it's worth the risk and that the positive stories outweigh the negative. If your acne isn't severe, here are some other tips I have for you.

1. Watch what you eat.
The food and drinks that you eat really do affect your skin. Caffeinated drinks make you more prone to breakouts. Everybody's body reacts different food, but pay attention to what makes you break out.

2. Wash your sheets once a week.
Or you can be crazy like me and use three different pillow cases a week.

3. Use face washes and shampoos that are sulfate free. Sodium Lauryl Sulfate and Sodium Laureth Sulfate are also known to cause breakouts.

4. Make sure your laundry detergent is sulfate free.

5.  Drink 3 liters of water a day.

I hope some of these tips and ideas can help you get the skin you want.

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

25 Things About Me

1.  I've never smoked anything in my life.

2.  I am an outgoing introvert.
     I like to socialize but I also like to be alone. I don't need/want to hang out with people every single day. If I hang out with people a few days in a row, I need alone time afterwards. If I think you are clingy, I will distance myself from you.

3.  I am not a texting/phone person.
     I rarely ever text or call anyone. Don't take it personally if I barely speak to you on the phone or text you. I rather hang out/catch up in person than talk over the phone. I like low maintenance friends who you don't have to talk to or see all the time and when you meet up it's all love.

4.  I love to sing.
     I used to be a decent singer, but my voice changed and I'm not as good anymore. That doesn't stop me from singing in the shower, performing at karaoke bars, and singing in the car. 

5.  Horror and drama are my favorite movie genres. Zombie movies are my absolute favorites.
     My mom took my friend Marcela and I to go see the Dawn of the Dead remake when I was thirteen and I've been hooked ever since. 

6.  Chicken Pho is my favorite meal.

7.  I'm a morning person.

8.  I don't drink too often.
     I don't really order alcohol when I go out to eat and I don't really buy alcohol unless we are celebrating a holiday, birthday, engagement, wrap parties, etc. I guess we can say I drink socially, but I don't drink if I don't want to. I'd also rather spend my money on food than on alcohol.

9.  I hate shopping.
     I like to get new clothes, but I hate the whole process of going to the store, trying clothes on, etc.  I can't shop for clothes online because most of the time the things that I order do not fit me.
10.  I am obsessed with watching sunrises and sunsets. 

11.  I am an optimist.

12.  I show up extremely early to everything except for parties.
     I show up forty five minutes to an hour early to work, if I'm hanging out with someone, I'm usually ten to fifteen minutes early and I just chill in my car and wait. I show up thirty minutes early to the movies. My best friend Kimberly is one of the few people that beats me every time. I love her for it.

13. I hate waiting on people.
     If I make the effort to show up somewhere on time, please do the same. It's not hard to set an alarm and leave early if you know there will be traffic etc. If I am having lunch or dinner with someone, I plan my breakfast and snacks around it, don't make me wait to eat. I also hate waiting for people to RSVP to things or plan activities.

14.  I have an eating schedule. 
      I'm starting to look a bit neurotic. Haha. By schedule, I mean I like to eat breakfast between 7:30-9:30, lunch between 11:30- 2:30 and dinner between 5-7:30. That schedule changes when I'm on set, but if it's the weekend or my day off, I prefer to eat at these hours. It's recommended that you eat your last meal no later than three hours before you go to sleep.

15. I could live a happy life as a single lady.
     I always wanted to get married when I was a little girl, but now I'm perfectly okay with the fact that I may never get married. It's not that I don't think I'll meet somebody, but marriage is just not a priority or necessity for me. There's nothing wrong if that's one of your ultimate goals in life, but my goals have changed. I have a lot of strong role models in my life who never got married or are divorced and happy and I know I can be happy without a husband. With that being said, I hate being asked if I'm seeing anybody or if I am interested in anyone. It's nobody's business but my own. I will say that I've always wanted to be a mom one day. Marriage is not a necessity, but kids are. I am not afraid to adopt and raise kids on my own. I will be a great mom or foster mom one day.

16. I am not interested in American football.
     I've gone to a falcons game and to some bulldog games and I had a great time, but it's not something I am interested in watching on television every weekend.  I just can't get into it. If I had to pick a favorite team, it would have to be the bulldogs because my sister goes to UGA. I also own a few bulldog shirts because I think they are cute and I love to wear red. 

17.  I love the beach and mountains equally. 

18.  I am deathly afraid of Tsunamis
  After the Boxing Day Tsunami, I've had this terrible fear of tsunamis. I know that the chance of me ever experiencing one is slim, but I think about them constantly. Whenever there's an earthquake or landslide near the ocean, I check out the tsunami warning website to see if there is a chance of one occurring anywhere. 

19.  I don't go to church.
     I don't believe that going to church every Sunday makes somebody a better person. I don't believe that your religion makes you a better person. I believe that our words, actions, and how we treat other people is what matters.

20.  My mom is my hero and my favorite person ever. 

21.  The Secret Scripture by Sebastian Barry is my favorite book.

22.  I am really good at quoting movies. 

23.  I don't like being photographed.
      I don't like being in front of a regular camera, but I enjoy acting in front of a video camera. I think I look better in selfies than regular photos.

24.  I speak pretty good French.
     I have Mademoiselle Steinhauer and Madame Girard to thank for that. Best French teachers ever!!!  Merci! Je vous aime.

25. I believe there's a solution to most of the things we complain about.
 For the love of God, let's stop complaining so much.  We can fix most of the things we complain about.

-Unhappy with your weight? 
If you're underweight, go see a nutritionist or a doctor to see healthy ways to gain weight. Overweight? Watch your portions, exercise, also go see a doctor about a healthy diet. This does not apply to people who are sick and cannot control their weight due to medicine, treatments, injuries or disabilities.

- Hate your job? 
Find a new job and quit your other one. 

-Too Tired? 
Don't stay out so late partying if you know you're going to work the next day.

 -Unhappy in a relationship? 
Breakup or try to fix the problem. 

- Too hot/cold?  
Layer down or layer up. Drink some water. If you know you are gonna be outside in the heat, hydrate a day in advance. 

- You're Broke
Watch what you spend your money on. Get a second or a third job. Save your money instead of wasting it on things you don't need. 


Tuesday, August 9, 2016

A Letter To My Future Kid

Hi There,

This is your twenty-five year old mom. I don't know when I will meet you or when I will give you this letter, but I want to talk about what kind of a person I hope you turn out to be. Let me get one thing straight, I don't care if you're a boy, girl, gay, straight, trans, democrat or a republican, Christian or atheist. I care about the kind of person that you will turn out to be. If I raise a respectful kid, I will be proud. I want you to form your own opinions and beliefs and I will do my best to be a good example to you.  Here are some of the hopes I have for you/things I want for you.

 I want you to be the kind of person that....
- Gives up their seat for older people.
-  Holds doors open for people (even if you're a girl, it's a nice thing to do).
-  Calls people "ma'am" or "sir."
-  Educates themselves before going out and voting. I won't care if you have opposing political views from me. I just care that you look into all the facts from all the parties and make your own educated opinion. I don't want you to vote for someone just because that's who I am voting for or because that's my political party of choice and you grew up knowing that.
-  Stands up for what they believe and also stands up for others.
-  Goes after their dreams.
-  Always tries their best.
- Gives things a chance.
- Respects their elders.
- Questions everything.
- Does what they want to do regardless of other people's opinions as long isn’t harmful to others.
- Has good table manners.
- Is Cultured.
- Is respectful of other people’s beliefs and opinions.
- Is open-minded. 
-  Knows that a person's worth is not defined by their salary, house, job, other people’s opinions of you.
- Is proud of their culture.
- Doesn't let people disrespect them.
- Knows the Importance of Family.

  I have a lot of time before I will meet you or give this to you, so I will probably update this as time goes on. I look forward to meeting you in the distant future and seeing what kind of a person you turn out to be. I am sure I will love you no matter what.

Yo Crazy Mama from 2016 <3 <3 <3

Monday, May 30, 2016

A Few Reasons Why I Am Single

 1. I like to be
      I don't feel the need to be with somebody to be happy. I feel that being in a good relationship is a bonus, but not a necessity in life. The moment I got out of my last relationship, I felt like I was released from jail. I've been so happy ever since and I know I could continue to live a great life as a single lady. I know that I don't need to get married to live the life that I want to live.  

2. I'm very picky
     I know what I want and don't want in a guy. I am picky about how I want to be treated. I want to be respected. Also, if I'm not interested in a guy, I'm not just gonna go out with him to go out. I don't want to waste anyone's time.

3.  I'm tired of guys not making an effort
    I feel like guys don't pick up the phone to call you or ask you out in person anymore. Phone calls can be awkward, but it's a nice touch.  Guys don't organize the first dates anymore.  The last two dates that I went on were planned by me. So annoying.

4.  I enjoy my own company/ I am comfortable with my ways
    I like to do things alone. My "me" time is everything to me. I don't want to lose that. 

5.  I have trust issues
   Those who are close to me know that my last serious relationship was not a healthy one.  I was mistreated. It's hard to trust people again or to let people get close to me. I'm afraid to let people in. I push people away.

6. I am not interested in the guys who like me or the guys I like aren't interested in me
     I am not good at reading people. If someone I like likes me. I usually never know.  If you never ask me out or if you don't tell me how you feel, I won't know. If the guy I like doesn't reach out to me or takes days to communicate, I'll take that as disinterest.




Thursday, April 28, 2016

Stalked Part 3

     Today has been an interesting day to say the least. I walked my usual five miles and reached the road where I had parked my car. The street that I parked on had no cars on it except for mine and a  1990s Red Ford F-350 truck parked directly behind me. I found it bizarre that people would park right behind me, when I parked so far away from the trail entrance. Nevertheless, I started to walk toward my car and I noticed there were two guys sitting in the red car. I went ahead and I took a picture of the car behind mine and I decided to walk back to the trail entrance and wait for them to leave. A few minutes passed and they were still sitting there. A friendly old man walked by me and started a conversation. I told him what was going on and he offered to walk me to my car and I accepted. He said, "I'm going to hug you. Don't act freaked out." I pretended he was my dad and said, "Bye, Dad. Love you." I unlocked my car and started it. The second I turned my car on, I heard the truck behind me turn on. It had a really loud engine. I quickly made a u-turn and thanked the old man through the window.  The red truck also made a u-turn and the old man yelled for me to go fast. I sped off as quick as I could and made sure to pull into a place where they wouldn't suspect where I was. Apparently that's something you're not supposed to do, but it saved me. I called the cops and they sent someone to me. I gave them the description of the car and of the driver. I got a really good glimpse of the driver and was able to describe him perfectly. It wasn't anyone I knew. I got a quick glimpse of the passenger, but not enough to really describe him well. The police officer thanked me for paying close attention and asked me to e-mail the picture of the truck to her.
      I always pay attention on the trail to each person and I am constantly looking over my shoulder (something else you're not supposed to do). Now that I remember properly, I think I saw the truck drive by me when I was entering the trail.  I am a bit shaken up. This isn't my first time at this rodeo. If you look back through my old posts, you'll see two other ones talking about other encounters that I've experienced. Luckily, I have come out okay of each situation unharmed, but that doesn't take away from how unsettling it feels to experience this. 
   The moral of the story, again, is to be aware of your surroundings and do not walk alone. I need to practice what I preach. I always nag at my little sister and tell her to be careful at her college and to be extremely careful about walking alone at certain places. Also, it is extremely important to not be looking down at your phone, but to always look people in the eye and pay attention as you walk.  I'll be bringing my special friend, pepper spray,  on my next walk and I won't be going to the same place for a while. I'd also like to give a shout out to my best friend, Melissa, who came over and calmed me down after this happened.

Update: Five days since the incident and I still haven't returned to the same place. I am still rather shaken by the whole thing. Having pepper spray doesn't make me feel any safer. If a bad guy was double my size and grabbed me what good would the pepper spray do? I am not going to live in fear because of my gender, but I am going to take extra precautions.

Here are some tips on what to do if you suspect you're being stalked...