Resolutions for 2014

These are not in any specific order. I'm just typing them as they come to my mind.

1. Volunteer more.

2.  To get all As for my last semester of college.

3. Stop going out to eat as much.

4. Make time for loved ones.

5. Procrastinate less.

6. Run at least a mile a day Monday- Friday.

7. Keep in better touch with family.

8.  Eat breakfast every day.

9. Run a 10k

10. Get a job after graduating college.

11. Go to both of my grandma's 80th birthday parties (TX and MX)

12.  Visit my little sister more.

13. Trust people more.

How To Move On After A Bad Relationship

My friends and I have dated quite a few jerks. All it took was one jerk for me to realize what kind of guy not to date. Here's some advice that we have on how to move on after a bad relationship.

1. Cut all ties.

Not all relationships end badly or are unhealthy, but if that's the case you should cut all forms of communication with your ex. First, delete their number from your phone. Do not contact them. If they contact you and start to harass you, block their number. If they start sending you text messages through the internet, change your number. Changing your phone number may cost money, but it is definitely worth it. Blocking them on Facebook and Twitter will also help you move on a little easier.  Lastly, if they keep harassing you and showing up to your house, get a restraining order.

2. Talk to somebody.

Don't bottle up your emotions. Talk to your friends and family. If the relationship was verbally, mentally, or physically abusive, seek counseling. It's unhealthy for you to not talk to other people about it. Many people do not realize that emotional/mental abuse can be more harmful to a person than physical abuse.

3. Don't go back.

After any relationship ends you may feel lonely and surprisingly you might even miss your ex even if they treated you like dirt. No matter what, do not go back especially if it was an abusive relationship. You cannot change a person, only they can change themselves . They may apologize, send you flowers, but that does not excuse them treating you poorly. You have your friends and family to help you get through it.

4. Stay single for a while.

Don't hop into a relationship right after the breakup just because you don't like being alone. You will need time to heal after whatever you went through.

5. Stay positive.

You will find love again. Not everybody is like your ex. Don't give up on finding happiness, but don't rush into anything either and don't someone just to date.

Thoughts….

This past weekend was a sad weekend for a lot of people and for my community. First of all, it was the first anniversary of the Sandy Hook tragedy. I didn't know any of the families whose kids were killed, but as a former nanny and someone who adores children, my heart was so sad for them. I sat glued to the television for three days last year trying to comprehend the terrible tragedy that occured. I found myself crying a lot this weekend for these families and these kids that would never get to grow up. In addition to the Sandy Hook anniversary, something tragic happened in my community... the son of an acquaintance committed suicide. He was only fourteen years old.  I know the mother of the young man and she is such a nice lady and didn't deserve this at all, nobody does. All of these deaths have gotten me thinking about how much we take for granted, the dumb things we stress about, and all of the complaining that we do. My mom and sister are the only family I have here in Atlanta.  They drive me crazy and we argue over some of the dumbest things, but lately I've tried to not get annoyed over small, stupid things. What if my mom or sister got taken away from me? How would I feel if the last moments we spent together were arguing over dumb things? I would never forgive myself if anything happened to them. They are the most important people in my life. I hear people complain about their parents, but they just need to stop and think of everything that they do for them. They may annoy the hell out of you, but usually it's for your own good. I've personally lost a father and I cringe whenever someone complains about their father, because I'd give one of my lungs away to have my dad here today. I'll probably add more to this blog later, but my point is we need to appreciate our loved ones and stop bitching about them because they may be gone at the blink of an eye and the things that we usually argue about really aren't worth arguing about.